“What are you really in control of?”

Feelings, Actions, External Factors or nothing at all….

2 min readJan 10, 2019


“Some thing are in our control, while others are not. We control our opinion, choice, desire; aversion ,and, in a word, everything of our own doing. We don’t control our body, property, reputation, position ,and, in a word, everything not of our own doing. Even more, the things in our control are by nature free, unhindered, and unobstructed, while those not in our control are weak, slavish, can be hindered, and not our own.” — Epictetus

Control — the things we have governance over in life are few compared to the many we do not.

We must adhere too external factors such as time, other people, predetermined circumstances, illness and many other circumstances that continuously shape our life.

Control in and of itself is one of the hardest things to harness.

When you consciously recognize that you and you alone are reasonable for choices made, actions taken, repercussions to be had or rewards to be received, you’ll notice even more things that you don’t have governance over.

Thinking about all the things we can’t control might seem scary at first. But, with time you’ll notice this is actually a good thing.

Then you can divert all you focus towards specific things, and proper governance over those things, which, will help with making the most of your precious resources.

With all this being said, the main function of control is to act as our buffer between the things we should focus and take action upon. Regard everything else as a distraction, mind how you react towards external factors and focus on using your precious resources (time, energy & effort) wisely.




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